The Sex Blog


It had to arrive sooner or later. I’ve been pumping these blogs out for a while now, so actually it’s probably overdue.

The Sex blog.

Yeah, but what is it, Bob?

Well it’s not a “how to”, that’s for sure. When it comes to the “how to”, all I know is that there are many, many more ways, means, combinations and positions than one person will ever be able to experience, unless you get Dr.Ruth & Wilt Chamberland in a room with a video recorder. And that ain’t gonna happen, because one of them is dead. And who thought that it would be Wilt?

But I digress.

Oh God, I just thought of Dr.Ruth & Wilt.

Digressing again…..

So it’s not that. It’s also not a “right & wrong” or morality thing. As long as you’re both adults, and you’re not hurting anyone more than they want to be hurt, I don’t have a damn thing to say about that.

What this is , my friends, is a compendium of some benefits you get for your participation in sexual activities. Which sounds a bit like the icing on a particularly good cake, at least to me.  But before we get into that, how much is enough? Or too much? Well…?

Looking at the frequency of sex in the 2010s, adults are now having sex nine times per year less than in the late 1990s.

What Is the Average?

  • Average adult: 54 times/year (about 1/week)
  • Adults in their 20s: Around 80 times/year
  • Adults in their 60s: 20 times/year

Averages based on a 2017 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

AND, those who are married  tend to have sex more often than those who are not.

So, there’s another myth exploded. I knew you married guys were lying all along.

So here is a list of some of the benefits of regular sexual activity;


  1. Improved Immune System.

“Sexually active people take fewer sick days,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD a sexual health expert.

People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that college students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of a certain antibody compared to students who had sex less often.

  1. Lowers Your Blood Pressure

Research suggests a link between sex and lower blood pressure, says Joseph J. Pinzone, MD. He is CEO and medical director of Amai Wellness. “There have been many studies,” he says. “One landmark study found that sexual intercourse specifically, not masturbation, lowered systolic blood pressure.” That’s the first number on your blood pressure test.

Not masturbation.

Ok. Fine. Whatever.

  1. Lessens Pain

“Orgasms can block pain,” says Barry R. Komisaruk, PhD, a distinguished service professor at Rutgers, the State University of New Jersey. It releases a hormone that helps raise your pain threshold. Stimulation without orgasm can also do the trick. “We’ve found that vaginal stimulation can block chronic back and leg pain, and many women have told us that genital self-stimulation can reduce menstrual cramps, arthritic pain, and in some cases even headache,” Komisaruk says.

4) Boosts brain power

Research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior suggests that frequent sex may improve women’s memory. Results found that women who had penetrative sex had better memory recognition of abstract words. Frequent sex may improve a woman’s ability to memorize words in general.

Or phone numbers, maybe.

The researchers note that at this stage, it is unclear whether sex improves memory or if better memory leads to more sex. However, they say that sex may improve memory by stimulating the creation of new neurons in the hippocampus – the region of the brain that is involved in learning and memory.

I could share with these researchers that better memory definitely leads to more sex. Especially remembering, say, names.

5) Increases lifespan

A study published in The BMJ ( British Journal of Medicine) concluded that sexual activity might have a protective effect on men’s health .The researchers tracked the mortality of almost 1,000 men aged between 45 and 59 over the course of 10 years. They found that risk of death was 50 percent lower in men who frequently had orgasms than men who did not. Other research also concluded with similar results. A 25-year study published in The Gerontologist determined that in men, frequent intercourse was a significant predictor of longevity.

So, remember ladies, it may well be a question of life or death.

6) Boosts self-esteem

In addition to all the physical benefits, having frequent satisfying sex may improve emotional wellness. People who enjoy casual sex tend to report higher self-esteem and well-being. Research published in Social Psychology and Personality Science found that among college students, those who enjoyed casual sex reported higher well-being and self-esteem levels, compared with students who did not have casual sex.


Somebody wasted the time to research whether or not college students who had sex were happier?

Somebody had some spare time and research money, didn’t they.

  1. Boosts Your Libido

Longing for a more lively sex life? “Having sex will make sex better and will improve your libido,” says Lauren Streicher, MD. She is an assistant clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago. Having more sex makes you want more sex. It’s cyclical!

And, this just in from Captain Obvious….

  1. Improves Sleep

You may nod off more quickly after sex, and for good reason. “After orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released, which is responsible for the feelings of relaxation and sleepiness” after sex, says Sheenie Ambardar, MD. She is a psychologist in West Hollywood, Calif.

“ Honey, it’s not my fault. It’s science!”

A number of other physical effects have been associated with more sexual activity, such as an improved sense of smell, healthier teeth, improved digestion, and that healthy-skin glow that’s related to an increase in the release of DHEA by the body. Also, there is a lowered instance of cancer, particularly prostate cancer in men. It’s a good form of exercise, (especially if you do it right.), and lastly, guess what ladies, it even improves women’s bladder control.  A strong pelvic floor is important for avoiding incontinence, something that will affect about 30% of women at some point in their lives. Good sex is like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles. When you have an orgasm, it causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.

That’s right.

Pelvic floor muscles.


OK, if you need more reasons, I can’t help you.

It’s healthy.

It improves your libido

It improves your brain power

It lessens pain

Pelvic floor muscles.

No need to thank me for this one. It’s part of my gig.

Talk later,



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